"RESULTS: You don't know SHIT."

||  RESULTS: You don't know SHIT. ||

Know what irritates me?
( This is where you say, "What, Courtney? What irritates you?" )
Well, i'll fuckin' tell ya...

People who pretend to be highly educated on somethin' particular, but clearly, don't even know the basics - and people who "One Up," every fuckin' thing you say. And then, to add another type of personality defect that i've decided I just can't support in a fellow adult, to the depths that I am refusing to be any real stock in these types of people from now on in - are the types that just don't fuckin' see the bigger picture, or think before they speak.

Sounds simple... But, apparently, not only do I have "RareBreed" tatted across my chest because I am one - I've learned that I am also the last of many different dying breeds. One, of which, is people who actually take pride in what comes out of their mouths, people who think before they speak, as to not open the door for miscommunication - leaving no "grey area," - the type of person that not only is effective, but puts authentic thought/concern into conversations of a certain severity. Not just some fuckin' nonsensical gum bumping.....

Examples? Sure.

People who pretend to understand what someone has went through. Look, "I totally get it," and, "i've been there, I understand," is some real easy shit to fuckin' say, but in a recent situation, I first hand witnessed somebody give some of the most foul advice, and say some of the most under handed, offensive, and fuckin' ridiculous shit - but still claim it's basically, "coming from the heart," - No, the fuck it wasn't coming from the heart, it was coming from your uncanny fuckin' need to be relevant in a conversation that you had no fuckin' business being in. If you fuckin' believe that you're permitted to determine what certain life time trauma's mean to somebody else - adult and/or child, than you give meaning to the saying, "Small towns breed small minds." It's absolutely offensive to have somebody who hasn't lived out a certain situation, and honestly, has no experience in a certain dynamic form of relationship, sit there and attempt to school you, while being insensitive and obviously uninterested in the BEST interest....

Here's what is worse, you'd think that giving your friends truly thought out advice would be something you'd ONLY do, right? Wrong. Some peoples NEED to be relevant in a conversation, or paid attention to, unfortunately has the ability to override the decency we're supposed to have as self proclaimed, "friends," when giving advice, on ridiculously deep topics. See, i'm very particular about what I am willing to speak on, or drop advice on. I first, cover what I believed to be, "the basics," ( but ummm, the "basics," don't seem to matter to everybody, which disturbed the shit outta me. ) I have to KNOW what I am talking about, before I begin speaking fro an, "educated on this shit," stand point. Otherwise, I am the listener, and I am learning. In addition, if I am giving advice, I always am careful on my word choices, and make sure that what I am saying, is about to be perceived nothing other THAN the right fuckin' way, and trust me, if i'm willing to give you advice, the advice is coming from a place of experience, not some shit I saw on fuckin' TV, or something I heard that my Uncle's, neighbors, twice removed cousin's, Aunt's, Brother fuckin' went through in 1997. Kindly get the fuck outta here with that shit. How dare some people think they have some right to hop into the position of "Advice Giver," when they lack the basic requirements to do so - which is experience, usually. It's just another person wanted to be heard that badly, and it's fuckin' foul.

I am sick to death of these types of people - the types lying about their history, their pasts, to feel more validated as a "grown up," - when all that accomplishes is ANYTHING but that. I am sick to death of these people that can't let somebody have, "their moment," because heaven forbid somebody else get the attention, they must "one up," them with something they did more, better, - whatthefuckever. I believe a lot of this shit is TEXT BOOK, "pathological liar," tendencies. Straight up, Google that shit, google whatthefuck that means, and if it starts making you feel a little guilty inside, then headbutt the nearest solid surface.

Ya know, over the years, yes i've made mistakes with my friendships, but that was over the years. I learned, very early in life, how rare good bonds are, how rare genuine concern from other people is, and how blessed each of us really is, to even be able to count on ONE hand the "few true," we've maintained. I appreciate the good, and I appreciate the few, and those that are so fuckin' stuck on themselves, to such extents that they don't even realize what they're destroying? Too fuckin' bad. There's not a damn thing to excuse such carelessness - the giving shit advice, just for the sake of hearing yourself talk, the talking shit behind the backs of people who've been nothing but good, giving and true to you. You ain't that fuckin' cool, these people you're losing don't fuckin' regenerate, especially at this age. It's embarrassing. But, see, these types won't even register these types of feelings that would cause them to feel wrong, or make them feel as though certain aspects of them need to be changed. They wind up being the blamers, the finger pointers, the fuuuuuckin' assholes that feel validated only when they're able to "one up," somebody, or disrespect them behind the scenes to others.

Good luck with those fuckin' methods.
There just isn't any straddling the fuckin' middle, you either respect your friendships with people, or you choose not to. So, when you make the choice as a fuckin' adult to not respect one of your friendships, OWN IT, and hold yourself accountable, if you're capable of even doing THAT much.

Assholes.